Valentine’s Day ... some folks love it ... some folks tolerate it ... while others dread it! Remember those Valentine Boxes we used to make in Elementary School? We would carefully decorate them with shades of pink and red in the days leading up to February 14. We would painstakingly print our names in bold letters across the top ... hoping for a Valentine from at least a few friends in our classrooms.
As the years went by, and we realized that Valentine’s Day was not really about how many cheap cards were placed in a shoebox but in our ability to love and be loved. When that realization took hold, the holiday either took on greater significance or was kicked to the corner of our heart.
Whether you are 16 or 86 ... here is my advice for you today:
If you are happily married ... wholeheartedly love your husband today. Live with no regrets. Treat him extra special. This doesn’t take a lot of money but it does take a lot of attention. Fix his favorite meal ... watch his favorite movie with him ... find a copy of “your song” and play it for him first thing in the morning. Get up early and make coffee for him ... leave him a note on the dashboard of the car ... choose not to nag, criticize or complain for 24 entire hours!
If you are still waiting for your prince charming ... allow yourself to find fulfillment in the heart of the One Who knows you best and loves you the most. Even after you are married, Jesus should still be your First Love! Wait well ... while you are in the days or years of waiting ... purpose in your heart to serve others and to become the best “you” that you can be. Go on missions’ trips! Teach Sunday School! Invite others over for dinner! Baby-sit for free! Prepare to run a marathon! Take an extra class at college or at church! Tell the pastor that you are available to serve your local church! Women who wait well seldom wait long for fulfillment because they find satisfaction not in being loved but in loving well!
If you have found yourself “suddenly single” due to rejection or divorce ... know that you serve a God Who will never leave you or forsake you. Do not build a wall around your broken heart but allow God to heal those broken places inside of you. Pray with other single women and spend time with a mentor. Join a Bible Study and allow your soul to flourish in the fertilization of the power of the Word of God. Reject bitterness and embrace His power and His joy.
If you are a widow ... it’s o.k. to enjoy a sweet memory or two ... but then choose to give to someone else today. Perhaps you could babysit for a young couple so they could go out to dinner. If you are not able to do that ... slip a young couple a $10 or $20 bill so they can go out and enjoy the days they have been given.
I don’t believe that celebrating love should merely be confined to Valentine’s Day ... but we should love others well all of the other 364 days of the year! God has placed us here at this time in history to reveal His fruits to the world in which we live.
“But now, faith, hope and love abide these three; but the greatest of these is love.” - ICorinthians 13:13.
I love each one of you! -Carol